One of the biggest and most important attributes of leadership is influence.
However, you can't influence people if you're judging them. Believe me when I say they can feel it if you do. They will hear it in your voice, see it in your facial expressions and feel it in the way you come across. They know.
A key to becoming a great leader is to stop judging. Instead - get curious. Take a look at the person.
If you want to influence someone, you must first know what influences them.
Ask them questions. What motivates him/her? What drives him/her? What's important to him/her? What are their beliefs and values?
The only way to know is to spend some time with them and find out.
Once you know what influences them, then you can lead them because you can speak from their frame of reference. You can speak about things that are already important to them.
That's how leaders develop influence.
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