You Can't Influence People If You're Judging Them


Have you ever set a goal to become a better leader?

One of the biggest and most important attributes of leadership is influence.

However, you can't influence people if you're judging them. Believe me when I say they can feel it if you do. They will hear it in your voice, see it in your facial expressions and feel it in the way you come across. They know.

A key to becoming a great leader is to stop judging. Instead - get curious. Take alook at the person.

If you want to influence someone, you must first know what influences them.

Ask them questions. What motivates him/her? What drives him/her? What's important to hin/her? What are their beliefs and values?

The only way to know is to spend some time with them and find out.

Once you know what influences them, then you can lead them because you can speak from their frame of reference. You can speak about things that are alreay important to them.

That's how leaders develop influence.

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Three Things Leaders MUST Do

leaders leadership Jun 25, 2018

So often clients say one of their goals is to be a better leader. I say "Great! How will you know when you're a better leader?" That is often met with either silence or a comment like "Hmmm. That's a great question."

What do leaders do, anyway? What does it mean to be a leader?

There are three things a leader MUST do.

  1. Get in touch with the facts. See things as they are. Keep emotion out of it at this stage. Don't over-dramatize things or put on a set of rosy glasses. Be real about the state of the union.
  2. Have a vision for the future. See things better than they are. What could be or should be for the future? 
  3. Make it happen. Make your vision come to life. Take consistent action. Get resourceful. Don't take "no" for an answer.

You can be a leader anywhere in your life: at work, at home, in your church or community. 

What's one way you could apply these leadership "musts" this week?

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