Driving Results: When to Use Emotion and When Not To

As a leader your job is to drive results.

"Check your emotions at the door" is advice I've heard many times. Sometimes that is appropriate advice. Other times, we would be better served to put our emotions front and center.

Let's distinguish between when we are best served between using our emotions and when to leave them out of the equation.

 It is not the best time to use your emotions when you are in fact-gathering mode.

The first mandate of leadership is SEE THINGS AS THEY ARE, not better or worse than they are.

In this case, please check your emotions at the door. You are on a fact-gathering mission. You need a clear picture of where things stand. Your emotions can cloud your judgement. 

Leave the drama of the situation at the door. Encourage others to leave their emotions at the door and be objective. 

Once you have a clear goal in mind, bring your emotions to the forefront.

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You Can't Influence People If You're Judging Them

Have you ever set a goal to become a better leader?

One of the biggest and most important attributes of leadership is influence.

However, you can't influence people if you're judging them. Believe me when I say they can feel it if you do. They will hear it in your voice, see it in your facial expressions and feel it in the way you come across. They know.

A key to becoming a great leader is to stop judging. Instead - get curious. Take a look at the person.

If you want to influence someone, you must first know what influences them.

Ask them questions. What motivates him/her? What drives him/her? What's important to him/her? What are their beliefs and values?

The only way to know is to spend some time with them and find out.

Once you know what influences them, then you can lead them because you can speak from their frame of reference. You can speak about things that are already important to them.

That's how leaders develop influence.

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Three Things Leaders MUST Do

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Do you want to be a better leader?

So often clients say one of their goals is to be a better leader. I say "Great! How will you know when you're a better leader?" That is often met with either silence or a comment like "Hmmm. That's a great question."

What do leaders do, anyway? What does it mean to be a leader?

There are three things a leader MUST do.

  1. Get in touch with the facts. See things as they are. Keep emotion out of it at this stage. Don't over-dramatize things or put on a set of rosy glasses. Be real about the state of the union.
  2. Have a vision for the future. See things better than they are. What could be or should be for the future? 
  3. Make it happen. Make your vision come to life. Take consistent action. Get resourceful. Don't take "no" for an answer.

You can be a leader anywhere in your life: at work, at home, in your church or community. 

What's one way you could apply these leadership "musts" this week?

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