Moment With Mom: She Anticipated My Needs

Uncategorized May 07, 2019
Mom was always bringing me things I liked…even though I didn’t ask for them.

Usually it was something I didn’t know I wanted until after she gave it to me; stuff I wouldn’t have purchased on my own at the time. For example, a matching set of cereal bowls and coffee cups, a trivet for the kitchen counter, a wreath for the front door. She was thoughtful that way.

It’s as if she could see around corners.
She could see into the future and anticipate my needs.
What if we did that with our clients/customers? Work teams/boss? Spouse? Kids? What if we were “thoughtful” of the ones who need us most?
 
Instead of starting your week or day just handling whatever comes up - putting out fires - what if you deliberately set an intention for being your best and highest self when and where needed the most?
 
Those who do that, consistently, are happier, more successful, and more fulfilled...
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Moments With Mom: "You're Ambitious."

Uncategorized Apr 29, 2019
“You have more ambition in your little finger than she will ever have.”
 
That was Mom’s response when she heard me comparing myself to someone else.
 
Me. Ambitious?
 
“You could be in management one day if you want to."
 
We often don’t see what we have in ourselves.
 
We’re too close. Sometimes it takes someone we love and respect to point things out to us. 
 
Mom saw leadership potential in me. It opened the door for me to see myself as leader.
 
Ideas like that are like outfits. You can try it on (in your mind’s eye) and see how it fits.
 
“Yes. I like this one. I’ll take it.” Or “no thanks, I don’t care for this one.”
 
I have assumed many leadership roles over the years - in my career, non-profit organizations, civic organizations, etc. It feels natural. I never doubted my ability to lead. To do so would feel absurd. 
 
I saw myself in...
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Moments With Mom: She Helped Shape My Identity

Uncategorized Apr 23, 2019
I lost my Mom on March 26th. It was a Tuesday morning, early, when I got the call. It had been a four month battle with cancer, complicated by advanced Alzheimer’s.
 
"Alzheimer’s is a cruel disease. It takes your loved ones long before they’re gone.” That’s what Mom said when Grandma died of Alzheimer's. She was right - as usual. Truth be told, I lost my Mom a little at the time over the years due to the memory loss. And it’s not just memory loss - it’s a loss of mannerisms, logic, and ways of being. She changed little by little. But I choose not to focus on that.
 
I’d rather celebrate her life because she was an amazing woman, wife, mother, friend, and employee.
 
The essence of her was there right up until the end.
 
One day I was sitting by her bed reading so I could visit with her in between naps. During that visit I showed her my spiffy red suede boots complete with a buckle and a neatly shaped...
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Four Truths to Cut the Clutter in Goal Setting

goal-setting goals Jan 07, 2019

I absolutely LOVE this time of the year. It's a clean slate and FULL of possibilities.

My idea of a fun New Year's Eve is to totally geek out on setting goals, creating a vision board, and setting high expectations for the coming year. #Truth

Yet, setting goals can sometimes bring with it pressure. Pressure for it to be the "right" goal. Pressure for it to be "big enough." Reasonable. Scary. Specific. Measurable. Multiple goals. Yes - Must have goals in every area of my life.  And...and...and...UGH! How in the world will I do all this? Overwhelm! Just forget it!

Sound Familiar?

I hope the following brings you smooth sailing to create goals that inspire you, not overwhelm you. 

The Four Truths are...

Put your goals on paper.

All important goals need to be written down, preferably in your own handwriting.

If you try to remember it all in your head you will create an endless loop of discussion. It's a disaster waiting to happen. If you can't remember what you had...

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Secrets of Effective Communicators: Profiling Crystal

Uncategorized Dec 03, 2018
 

The Biggest Secret of Effective Communicators is...

They  communicate with others in the style THEY prefer, not their own style.

Consider this Communication Profiler School. We'll be looking at four distinct behavioral styles so you can identify the style and adapt your own behavior to elevate your A game in the communication arena.

In this video, I will profile CRYTAL, who is conscientious, task-oriented and has an appreciation for established protocols and standards.

Then I'll teach you how bring some balance and flexibility into your behavioral style if YOU are a Crystal and how to adapt to a Crystal if she sounds like someone you work with.

What you need to know before watching the profile.

  1. There is no "right" or "wrong" profile. One profile isn't better or worse than another. They all have strengths and soft spots.
  2. We are all a blend of all four styles. You are not one personality type. We all have some degree of...
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Secrets of Effective Communicators: Profiling Scott

 

Remember...

The Biggest Secret of Effective Communicators is that they  communicate with others in the style THEY prefer, not their own style.

Consider this Communication Profiler School. We'll be looking at four distinct behavioral styles.

In this video, I will profile SCOTT, who is a warm, steady, reliable type and an outstanding team player.

Then I'll teach you how bring some balance and flexibility into your behavioral style if YOU are a Scott and how to adapt to a Scot if he sounds like someone you work with.

What you need to know before watching the profile.

  1. There is no "right" or "wrong" profile. One profile isn't better or worse than another. They all have strengths and soft spots.
  2. We are all a blend of all four styles. You are not one personality type. We all have some degree of each of the four behavioral styles.
  3. I'll be describing the extreme end of the spectrum in each of these behavioral...
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Secrets of Effective Communicators: Profiling Iris

 

Remember...

The Biggest Secret of Effective Communicators is that they  communicate with others in the style THEY prefer, not their own style.

Consider this Communication Profiler School. We'll be looking at four distinct behavioral styles.

In this video, I will profile IRIS who is a influencer type with profound persuasiveness skills.

Then I'll teach you how smooth out your rough edges if YOU are an Iris and how to adapt to an Iris if she sounds like someone you work with.

What you need to know before watching the profile.

  1. There is no "right" or "wrong" profile. One profile isn't better or worse than another. They all have strengths and soft spots.
  2. We are all a blend of all four styles. You are not one personality type. We all have some degree of each of the four behavioral styles.
  3. I'll be describing the extreme end of the spectrum in each of these behavioral styles.

Throughout this series I will describe each style to help you...

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Secrets of Effective Communicators: Profiling Darren

 

As we learned last week...

The Biggest Secret of Effective Communicators is that they  communicate with others in the style THEY prefer, not their own style.

Consider this Communication Profiler School. We'll be looking at four distinct behavioral styles.

In this video, I will profile DARREN who is a dominant type with a sharp focus on getting results.

Then I'll teach you how smooth out your rough edges if YOU are a Darren and how to adapt to a Darren if he sounds like someone you work with.

Before I launch into our first profile I want to lay some ground work.

  1. There is no "right" or "wrong" profile. One profile isn't better or worse than another. They all have strengths and soft spots.
  2. We are all a blend of all four styles. You are not one personality type. We all have some degree of each of the four behavioral styles.
  3. I'll be describing the extreme end of the spectrum in each of these behavioral styles.

Throughout this series I...

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Communication Profiler School: Secrets of Effective Communicators

Uncategorized Nov 05, 2018
 
Have you ever noticed there are some people you jive with better than others?

Whether it's a co-worker, friend, or family member you know he/she "just gets me." It's like they know what you're thinking.

We like people who are similar to us, who have a style similar to our own. This is especially true regarding our communication styles.

We gravitate toward people who think like us, like the same pace we do and have similar priorities. We seem to be "on the same page" with some people more so than others.

What are the chances that everyone you work with have style just like your own? Slim to none!

At work, effective communication is important with everyone involved - ALL stakeholders.

That's how things really get done. It's how we achieve our objectives and have fun doing it, all while bringing stress and tension levels down.

When communication breaks down, tension and stress rise.

This week introduces my new series: Secrets of Effective Communicators.

The...

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Fall Balance: My Progress Isn't as Fast As I'd Like

Uncategorized Nov 04, 2018
 

Welcome to the 5th and final week of the Fall Balance Series, designed to bring you more work-life balance in 30-60 days. 

Last week we learned the phrase "I don't have time" is BS!

This week is especially for you if you're making progress, just not as fast as you'd like. 

Wow! That's a very different challenge, a much higher quality problem, than "I don't have time." You're in a much better spot already. Congratulations.

We've talked about what a "10" looks like, a weekly planning process, and how to fit all this stuff in. We've covered a lot in this series!

Now you know what you want, you've started chunking it down, you're planning it out, scheduling your success, and deliberately spending your time on your highest priorities. But you're not seeing the progress you want as QUICKLY as you want it. 

 Stop and think about "extras" for just a moment.

By "extras" I mean what Stephen Covey would have called Quadrant 2 activities - things that are...

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