When I was a new in management and had my first “real” job out of college I would complain all the time.
I put in a lot of hours. I worked hard. Both were my choice.
Yet I complained about everything. I complained about how other people in the office had known each other longer than me and were closer, about how little I was paid, about how many hours I worked and about how I wasn’t taken seriously. Then I’d whine about how things never change.
It drove away people I cared about.
I was seen as unappreciative. It caused me to often be in a bad mood. I overlooked what resources I did have. As suspected, my bosses didn’t take me seriously.
I made zero progress and felt like I had very little impact when what I wanted was to make a huge impact. Instead, I got more of the things I didn’t like in the first place.
Things started to change when I decided not to give my complaints any more air time.