Secrets of Effective Communicators: Profiling Darren


As we learned last week...

The Biggest Secret of Effective Communicators is that they  communicate with others in the style THEY prefer, not their own style.

Consider this Communication Profiler School. We'll be looking at four distinct behavioral styles.

In this video, I will profile DARREN who is a dominant type with a sharp focus on getting results.

Then I'll teach you how smooth out your rough edges if YOU are a Darren and how to adapt to a Darren if he sounds like someone you work with.

Before I launch into our first profile I want to lay some ground work.

  1. There is no "right" or "wrong" profile. One profile isn't better or worse than another. They all have strengths and soft spots.
  2. We are all a blend of all four styles. You are not one personality type. We all have some degree of each of the four behavioral styles.
  3. I'll be describing the extreme end of the spectrum in each of these behavioral styles.

Throughout this series I...

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Communication Profiler School: Secrets of Effective Communicators

Uncategorized Nov 05, 2018
Have you ever noticed there are some people you jive with better than others?

Whether it's a co-worker, friend, or family member you know he/she "just gets me." It's like they know what you're thinking.

We like people who are similar to us, who have a style similar to our own. This is especially true regarding our communication styles.

We gravitate toward people who think like us, like the same pace we do and have similar priorities. We seem to be "on the same page" with some people more so than others.

What are the chances that everyone you work with have style just like your own? Slim to none!

At work, effective communication is important with everyone involved - ALL stakeholders.

That's how things really get done. It's how we achieve our objectives and have fun doing it, all while bringing stress and tension levels down.

When communication breaks down, tension and stress rise.

This week introduces my new series: Secrets of Effective Communicators.


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Fall Balance: My Progress Isn't as Fast As I'd Like

Uncategorized Nov 04, 2018

Welcome to the 5th and final week of the Fall Balance Series, designed to bring you more work-life balance in 30-60 days. 

Last week we learned the phrase "I don't have time" is BS!

This week is especially for you if you're making progress, just not as fast as you'd like. 

Wow! That's a very different challenge, a much higher quality problem, than "I don't have time." You're in a much better spot already. Congratulations.

We've talked about what a "10" looks like, a weekly planning process, and how to fit all this stuff in. We've covered a lot in this series!

Now you know what you want, you've started chunking it down, you're planning it out, scheduling your success, and deliberately spending your time on your highest priorities. But you're not seeing the progress you want as QUICKLY as you want it. 

 Stop and think about "extras" for just a moment.

By "extras" I mean what Stephen Covey would have called Quadrant 2 activities - things that are...

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Life Balance: "I Don't Have Time" & Other BS

Uncategorized Oct 22, 2018

Welcome to Week 4 of the Fall Balance Series, designed to bring you more work-life balance in 30-60 days. 

Last week we learned how to make progress on your "10." 

This week is especially for those of you who say "I don't have time."

If you're thinking "Stacie, it's great that I've examined what a "10" looks like in each area of my life and that you suggest this weekly planning process but I really don't have time. I'm super busy."

I get it. Your job is demanding.

Your family keeps you on the road running all over creation. You would love to carve pumpkins with the kids or sip lattes with a friend, go on a fall shopping spree or take a great hike in the beautiful fall weather to bring balance into your life...but you "just don't have time." You're busy.

That phrase is woven into how we talk. I get that you are busy. It's a fact. I understand how you feel.

Here's where the tough love of a coach comes in.

As your coach I get to stand back on the sidelines with a...

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Fall Balance: How Do I Make Progress?

Uncategorized Oct 15, 2018

Welcome to Week 3 of the Fall Balance Series, designed to bring you more work-life balance in 30-60 days. 

Last week we asked "What does a '10' Look Like in each area of your life?" This week...

How do make progress towards that "10?"

Today I get to share with you my secret for making great strides in my life. Are you ready?

I have a weekly planning process.


I know...lightning bolts didn't go off. "Stacie - that's your big secret?" Yes! That is the secret.

It's so simple. Yet so often we set these big goals then tuck them away somewhere. We still let life take over. There are all these little emergencies, fires to put out. We let things take over versus being deliberate with how we use our time. Before you know it the week has slipped by you yet again. You still haven't made the progress you want.

Today's message is simple: Create a ritual around your weekly planning process.

Put it on your calendar. What time works for you? Friday afternoon? Saturday morning?...

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Fall Balance: What Does a "10" Look Like?

Uncategorized Oct 08, 2018

Welcome to Week 2 of the Fall Balance Series, designed to bring you more work-life balance in 30-60 days.

What Does Balance Look Like...for YOU?

It's a very personal decision about what balance is or should look like. We are all unique individuals.

It's helpful to measure things.

What gets measured gets managed.

Here's a tool to help you measure how much balance you have - or don't!

You've probably seen The Wheel of Life dozens of times. You may have even filled one out at a seminar you attended or when reading a book. Do it again!

This isn't a tool for you to do once, or even once a year, then set aside with a "that was nice."

The Wheel of Life is a great tool to use every single month to help you measure balance.

Every month as you're closing out the month, fill it out and measure where you are in the various areas of your life. It's the perfect visual representation of balance!

Pro Tip: Print 12 of these, one for every month! Keep them with your journal or daytimer to...

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Fall Balance: Decide


Welcome to the Fall Balance Series. It's designed to bring you more work-life balance in the next 30-60 days. 

I LOVE all things fall and I hear so many of you say the same thing. Yet sometimes we get to the end of the fall season and we realize we never got around to doing the things we were so excited about. It leaves us saying "Next year I'll...(do that thing I wanted to do)."

This can show up in any area of your life.

Fall is a great time of year. It's post summer. People are back from summer vacations and kids are back in school. People are more focused in the fall. They're back to work so to speak. It's pre-holiday. We're not scattered and distracted by the holidays just yet. 

This is the perfect time of year to start that project at work or make significant progress on one. It's the perfect time to have "that" conversation with a co-worker that you've been putting off. Maybe there's a class you want to register for that will help you in your work or home...

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A 100% Work-Focused Life Comes at a Cost

Uncategorized Sep 24, 2018
Do you excel in your work life,  but at the expense of the other areas in your life?

Are you afraid that if you take your eye off the ball at work to focus on your health and fitness or your relationships that you'll slip at work and perform at a lower level?

I was guilty of this for a very long time. Today's video is an open heart-to-heart talk about the cost of a 100% work-centric life.

Early in my career, I gave work 100% of my focus.

I worked late. I worked weekends. I worked holidays. When not at work I was reading books about how to better when I was at work.

It served me in some ways. It made me who I am today. It helped me get ahead. I got promotions. I got invited to work on cool projects. I met my financial goals.

It brought me a lot of joy and a few of life's pleasures like a beautiful home, nice cars, and shopping whenever I wanted (within reason). As nice as it was, my life was out of balance.

At the end of the day, my work-centric life came at a great cost to...

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What If You Asked for Challenges?

What is your typical reaction when a challenge occurs?

When there is a problem, a roadblock, a setback, a hurdle you have to jump...what is your usual response?

Do you put your head in the sand and ignore it? (Problems don't go away because you do this.)

Do you see it as a big inconvenience? (Followed by rolling your eyes.)

Do you do the Toyota jump for joy? (You have to be at least 45 years old to get that one.)

The word challenge stems from the word accusation or accuse. When a challenge arises it's like the universe is accusing you of not having the ability to deal with it. If it were easy - you wouldn't be calling it a challenge.

A challenge is just a test of your abilities.

When you successfully complete the challenge you then have the ability to deal with that challenge again. It becomes part of your toolbox.

What would happen if you got excited when problems arise? It's an opportunity to expand your abilities. 

Regardless of it's current size, we all have a...

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Ever Seen Anyone Display Anger in a Business Situation When Under Pressure?

 When under pressure in a business situation, sometimes people's emotion of choice is  anger.

Have you ever witnessed this first hand? Maybe you've been guilty of it yourself in the past. We've all been angry at some point in our lives. Sometimes it's appropriate; sometimes it's not.

Anger isn't necessarily a bad emotion if you channel it. Anger can be a very useful emotion if it creates a shift in your thinking. 

  • "I'm done putting up with this (insert negative situation)."
  • "I'm not going to let this go by anymore."
  • "I'm drawing my line in the sand."
  • "I wont' stand for this anymore."
  • "I will step up and change this."

Anger is a great emotion if it spurs you to create new ideas, new solutions, higher standards, new goals, new ways of getting results, and you push yourself. 

However, if you're using anger as your go-to emotion when things get tough there are better options.

In the aftermath it can leave you feeling guilty and disappointed in yourself. It...

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